The Open Bedroom Podcast
Welcome to the world of open desire, honest conversations, and relationships designed on purpose. I’m Jennifer, a certified sex and relationship coach, and this podcast is a space for curious couples and throuples who want more—more connection, more pleasure, and more freedom to define love on their own terms.
Here we explore open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy with depth, nuance, and zero shame. We talk about navigating online dating in open relationships (yes, Tinder, Bumble, Feeld), creating customized relationship dynamics that actually work.
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EP#233: The Making of a Happy Slut: Sex, Polyamory & Unlearning Shame with Samia Mounts
How does someone become a Happy Slut? And what happens when you stop following society's rules about sex, love, and relationships?
Recent episodes
EP#232: Sexless Marriages with Coach Karen Bigman
What happens when the sex just… stops? Not because you stopped loving each other. Not necessarily because anyone cheated. But somewhere between work, kids, stress, resentment, hormones, routine—or just life—you look up and realize you’ve become roommates instead of lovers.
EP#231: What Monogamous Men Are Missing: Lessons from Open Relationships
What can men in monogamous relationships learn from guys who’ve successfully navigated open relationships?
EP#230: Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Betsy Pake
I’m Jennifer, and today I’m talking with Betsy Pake about one of the hardest questions we ask ourselves: "Should I stay, or should I go?"
EP#228: Sex Advice From Sex Workers
This week my guests are giving you sex advice directly from sex worker's mouths! George Goulburn and London Sterling of Australia tell us not only what men and women ask for, but how to give it to them.
EP#229: How Do I Tell My Partner I’m Kinky with Kink Consultant Amanda Dames
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former NYC dominatrix. Amanda shares her journey discovering her kink identity, her experience as a dominatrix, and her transition into coaching. Our conversation covers BDSM dynamics, power exchange, and how to communicate desires in relationships. Amanda emphasizes that kink is normal, shame-free, and rooted in consent, offering practical advice for couples navigating mismatched desires or introducing kink into their relationships.
EP#227: Taking Back Control of Your Erections with Scott & Jen
Erectile dysfunction can feel incredibly isolating—but it affects far more men and couples than most people realize.
Episodes
Common themes include open relationships, swinging, polyamory, online dating and Tinder, and sex.
EP#233: The Making of a Happy Slut: Sex, Polyamory & Unlearning Shame with Samia Mounts
How does someone become a Happy Slut? And what happens when you stop following society's rules about sex, love, and relationships?
EP#232: Sexless Marriages with Coach Karen Bigman
What happens when the sex just… stops? Not because you stopped loving each other. Not necessarily because anyone cheated. But somewhere between work, kids, stress, resentment, hormones, routine—or just life—you look up and realize you’ve become roommates instead of lovers.
EP#231: What Monogamous Men Are Missing: Lessons from Open Relationships
What can men in monogamous relationships learn from guys who’ve successfully navigated open relationships?
EP#230: Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Betsy Pake
I’m Jennifer, and today I’m talking with Betsy Pake about one of the hardest questions we ask ourselves: "Should I stay, or should I go?"
EP#228: Sex Advice From Sex Workers
This week my guests are giving you sex advice directly from sex worker's mouths! George Goulburn and London Sterling of Australia tell us not only what men and women ask for, but how to give it to them.
EP#229: How Do I Tell My Partner I’m Kinky with Kink Consultant Amanda Dames
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former NYC dominatrix. Amanda shares her journey discovering her kink identity, her experience as a dominatrix, and her transition into coaching. Our conversation covers BDSM dynamics, power exchange, and how to communicate desires in relationships. Amanda emphasizes that kink is normal, shame-free, and rooted in consent, offering practical advice for couples navigating mismatched desires or introducing kink into their relationships.
EP#227: Taking Back Control of Your Erections with Scott & Jen
Erectile dysfunction can feel incredibly isolating—but it affects far more men and couples than most people realize.
Ep#226: Why Do Good Girls Have Bad Sex? Breaking Free from Purity Culture with Aimee Latta
Today I'm speaking with with Aimee Latta, a certified embodied intimacy and relationship coach. Aimee shares her journey from growing up in Mormon purity culture, where sexuality was shrouded in shame, to fully embracing her pleasure and pansexual identity. She discusses how deeply ingrained religious beliefs suppressed her sexuality and explains her framework for reclaiming pleasure through permission, play, and power. Aimee offers practical advice for listeners beginning their own journeys, emphasizing curiosity, self-compassion, and community as essential tools for breaking free from shame and stepping into sexual empowerment.
Ep#225: Everyone Has Herpes with Nurse Amber
Today I'm chatting with Nurse Amber, a board-certified women's health nurse practitioner, to discuss sexual health and STIs. We cover the prevalence and stigma of herpes, common STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea, testing frequency, and prevention methods including PrEP and DoxyPEP.
Ep#224: Can You Still Cheat in an Open Relationship? with Mindy Glover
Today I'm sitting down with therapist and relationship coach Mindy Glover to talk about infidelity and open relationships.
Ep#223: Avoiding the Roommate Syndrome with Coach Kevin Anthony
Today I'm sit down with certified sexologist and relationship coach Kevin Anthony to explore mismatched libido in relationships. We discuss key causes including hormonal changes, performance anxiety, emotional resentment, and the natural fading of new relationship energy. Kevin shares practical strategies for maintaining intimacy, such as daily physical connection, showering together, and intentional date nights.
EP#222: The Truth About STI Risk, Testing & Sexual Health with Robert Johnson
Today I’m joined by Robert Johnson, founder of Shameless Care, a telehealth company focused on sexual health, STI testing, and sexual wellness medications. After a missed STI diagnosis changed his life, Robert built Shameless Care to challenge outdated sexual health practices and bring more transparency, better education, and better access to care. We’re diving into the truth about STI testing, modern Telehealth, and why so many people are still getting bad information about sex.
EP#221: Fully Charged: Primal Sex with Melissa Louise
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back Melissa Louise, a certified erotic blueprint coach, to explore "fully charged primal sex." We dive into the biological and evolutionary roots of male and female sexuality, including why men are naturally silent during sex, how prolactin causes post-ejaculation sleepiness, and why women have greater orgasmic capacity.
EP#220: Kink Curious With Faith Laux
Today I'm welcoming somatic sex and relationship coach Faith Laux, who shares how her stage four colon cancer diagnosis inspired her to explore kink as a healing practice. Faith explains that kinky play doesn’t require sexual partners, discusses the importance of negotiation and communication, and introduces the five erotic blueprints: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. She also guides us on how to begin honest conversations with partners about unexplored desires, emphasizing self-acceptance and vulnerability as essential first steps.
EP#219: Why Women Don't Want Nice Guys With Marni Kinrys
Today I'm speaking with Marni Kinrys, founder of the Wing Girl Method, about why being a "nice guy" often kills attraction.
EP#218: Why You’re Not Getting a 2nd Date
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, My husband Scott and I discuss why people often don't get a second date, identifying 5 problematic dater archetypes: Chatty Cathy, Negative Nancy, Pillow Princess, Boring Brenda, and Free Date Fran.
EP#217: The Truth About Premature Ejaculation with Jeff Abrahams of Promescent
Today I'm sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a sexual wellness brand. Jeff shares how Prometheus developed their patented delay sprays and wipes to help men with premature ejaculation by reducing hypersensitivity—without numbing their partners. We dive into the "orgasm gap" between men and women, the importance of foreplay and communication, and why normalizing masturbation for men matters. Jeff also talks about female arousal gels, cock rings, and their Go Solo lotion. Throughout the episode, we focus on removing shame around sexual wellness and encourage couples to explore intimacy openly using the right tools.
EP#216: Sensitive is Sexy, Nervous System Regulation for Intimacy with Rachel Dorneanu
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with licensed therapist and certified sex therapist Rachel Dorneanu to talk about what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) and how it impacts intimacy.
EP#215: When the Match Doesn’t Match Your True Desires
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with my husband Scott as we reflect on his recent breakup with a woman we’d been dating.
EP#214: Things Your Momma Never Told You About Your Vagina with Heather Florio
Hey, it’s Jen, and this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast is all about the things your momma probably never mentioned about your vagina (and trust me, you’ll want to hear this!). I’m joined by Heather Florio, the fabulous CEO of Desert Harvest, and together we’re busting myths, spilling secrets, and getting real about women’s pelvic and vaginal health.We kick things off by debunking some classic myths—like whether you really need to do Kegels all day, every day (spoiler: not everyone should!), and why those “freshness” products in the drugstore might be doing more harm than good. Heather dives into the science behind vaginal health, explaining why pH-balanced and iso-osmolar products are your best friends, especially when it comes to lubricants and moisturizers.We get into the nitty-gritty about hormone changes during perimenopause and menopause, and why supporting your body through these transitions is so important. Heather also drops some truth bombs about why you should steer clear of douches and coconut oil (yep, even if your favorite influencer swears by it), and why aloe-based moisturizers might just be the unsung heroes of vaginal care.This episode is packed with practical tips for keeping your pelvic health in check, and we’re all about empowering you to ask questions, have open conversations, and demand evidence-based care. So grab your headphones and get ready to learn what your momma didn’t tell you—but definitely should have!Follow Heather:https://desertharvest.com/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast
EP#213: Successful Sex Work (in Australia) with George Gouldburn
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with George Goulburn, who left his corporate career to become a straight male escort in Australia. George opens up about his unique journey, sharing what inspired his career change and what life is really like as a male escort. We dive into the legal and cultural differences between sex work in Australia and the U.S., and George offers honest insights into the realities of his work—helping women explore their desires, regain confidence, and experience genuine companionship. Our conversation highlights how sex work is normalized in Australia, the importance of safety and consent, and we challenge some of the most common stereotypes about escorts and their clients.
EP#212: How to Create a Threeway: Most Replayed Moment
This is the most listened to segment of EP136: How to Have a Threesome.
EP#211: How to Thrive in Neurodiverse Relationships with Seb & Dr. Alison Ash
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore how neurodiversity—specifically ADHD and autism—affect relationships, intimacy, and daily life. I’m joined by Seb, who has ADHD and two decades of experience supporting neurodivergent individuals, and his neurotypical wife, Dr. Alison Ash. Together, we discuss communication strategies, managing executive function stress, sensory sensitivities, and the importance of mutual understanding. Seb and Dr. Aly share practical tools for navigating challenges, fostering emotional connection, and creating fulfilling partnerships that honor both neurodivergent and neurotypical needs.
EP#210: From Dinner to Desire: How to Create a Sexy Night at Home
Today I'm sharing my step-by-step guide for creating a sexy, intentional Valentine’s Day or sexy night at home. I explain the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and offer practical tips to build anticipation throughout the day—starting with bedtime rituals, flirty texts, and sexy underwear. I suggest using dinner as foreplay with finger-friendly foods, then transitioning to the bedroom with sensual activities like oil massages, wax play, and sex toys. I emphasize connection, communication, and making intimacy fun and pressure-free for couples.
EP#209: Purity Culture Fucks Up Men
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with show listener Mr. Pollyanna, who shares his journey from an evangelical Christian upbringing and purity culture to embracing emotional vulnerability and polyamory. We discuss the damaging effects of toxic masculinity, religious shame, and emotional abuse, and how these have shaped our relationships and intimacy.
EP208: How Men Weaken Themselves By Constant Ejaculation with Melissa Louise
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back sexuality and tantra expert Melissa Louise for a deep dive into men’s sexual energy, ejaculation, and the cultural narratives around male sexuality.
EP#207: A Polyamorous Wedding- Jen & Scott Get Married!
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I share the story of how Scott and I decided to get married after four years together. I reflect on our initial hesitations, the practical reasons behind our choice—including financial planning and a prenup—and our intimate, DIY park ceremony officiated by a close friend. I discuss the meaning behind our vows, our open relationship, and the importance of creating a wedding that felt authentic to us. I also offer insights into our life together, our recent home remodel, and encourage you to embrace relationships on your own terms.
EP#206 Our Throuple Broke Up
Today I'm sharing an update about the breakup of my polyamorous triad with Scott and Jess, reflecting on the challenges of differing relationship needs. I discuss the evolution of my relationships, the importance of self-fulfillment, and lessons I’ve learned about communication, boundaries, and embracing change. I encourage you to cultivate a full life outside of partnerships and offer insights into navigating love, loss, and growth within open relationships. I also hint at some upcoming life events and future podcast topics.
EP#205: Love Without Borders: Inside the Life of a Long-Distance Throuple Love You Two 2022
Ever wondered how couples navigate long-term commitment while exploring other connections? This candid discussion explores one couple's journey into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) after 20 years of marriage. From initial hesitations to embracing polyamorous connections, they share their story of redefining relationships and challenging norms. Learn about the realities of an open relationship and the courage it takes to rewrite your own rules.
EP#204: How Trauma Affects Adult Relationships with Jason Shires
Psychotherapist Jason Shires shares how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships. Jason explains how internal defense mechanisms formed in childhood impact our partner choices and relationship patterns. We discuss therapeutic approaches like Internal Family Systems and somatic experiencing, the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies, and the role of addiction as escapism. We also explore how you can heal anxiety inside of relationships, offering practical insights for navigating emotional triggers with compassion. Jason shares personal insights and resources for healing, emphasizing self-acceptance, vulnerability, and the ongoing journey toward deeper connection and intimacy. This episode offers compassionate guidance for understanding and transforming relational wounds.
EP#203: The Surprising Truth About Why People Cheat with Paul Keable from Ashley Madison Dating App
EP#202: How Can Couples Navigate Mismatched Libidos and Cultivate Intimacy? with Dr. Alison Ash
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, to discuss navigating mismatched libidos in relationships. We explore how libido fluctuates due to life circumstances, the shift from spontaneous to responsive desire, and the impact of stress and aging. Dr. Ash offers practical strategies like scheduling connection time, building an “intimacy bank,” and embracing non-sexual touch. Our conversation also covers self-pleasure, embodiment, and open relationships as options. I encourage listeners to communicate openly, release shame, and cultivate intimacy through compassion and intentionality.
EP#201: Our First Throuple Vacation
Today I'm giving you a life update - our engagement and upcoming wedding, hormones and my health, pilates, and how to vacation as a throuple!
EP#200: Is an Open Relationship Right for You?
In this episode of The Feminine Rebellion, I join host Natty Frasca to discuss the realities of open relationships. As a certified sex and relationship coach, I share my personal journey—from experiencing sexual dissatisfaction to embracing ethical non-monogamy with my partner, Scott.
EP#199: Becoming a Man of Substance with Rob Kancler NEW
Free Bedroom Compass Assessment at BedroomCompass.com to see where you stand with the building blocks of a phenomenal sex life. It makes the teachings way more concrete and actionable.
EP#198: Pleasure as the Antidote to Anxiety with Candia Raquel
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Candia Raquel, a Mexican sensualist, scientist, and artist, to discuss how pleasure can be a powerful antidote to anxiety.
EP#197: How to Stop Having The Same Fights Over & Over Again with Andrea Dindinger
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with Andrea Dindinger, a veteran marriage and family therapist, about why couples have the same arguments repeatedly—often over small issues like running late or household chores.
EP#196: NRE in ENM: Benefits, Dangers, and Tips to Manage the NRE Phase
EP#195: The Third Perspective: Navigating Life as the Unicorn with Alley
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Alley, the first “third” (a person joining a couple) featured on the show. Alley shares her candid experiences as a third in a polyamorous triad, discussing communication challenges, emotional complexities, and the importance of clear boundaries and self-awareness.
EP#194 How To Get The Love You Crave with Aasha T.
EP#193 Let's Talk Erections & Cock Rings with Dr Elliot Justin
EP#192 Why Dating Isn’t Working for You
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with Veronica Lynn Clark, a transformative coach and spiritual teacher, to explore conscious dating, self-discovery, and intimacy.
EP#191: Our Throuple Became a Quad: Yes there's 4 people in this relationship dynamic
Our Throuple just because a Quad! Here's the deets in today's short episode + things I'm learning in real time so you know what episodes I'll be recording next.
EP#190: Still Fucking Like You're 16? Why So Many Women Are Sexually Unhappy!
Melissa Louise joins Jen for a candid discussion on sexual satisfaction and intimacy.
EP#189: From Jealousy to Joy: A Southern Psychologist’s Journey into Polyamory with Dr. Don Edmondson
In this episode of the Open Bedroom podcast, I interview psychologist Don Edmundson about his journey into polyamory. Don opens up about his personal experiences navigating jealousy, attachment, and the societal expectations of masculinity while building a polyamorous family with two partners and children. We discuss how he overcame ingrained beliefs about control, the importance of open communication, and how polyamory can foster trust and personal growth. Our conversation also explores research on relationship satisfaction and the evolving acceptance of ethical non-monogamy, offering practical insights for anyone interested in non-traditional relationships.
EP#188: Dyad Dates: How to Nurture Your 1:1 Time with Each Partner
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore the importance of nurturing one-on-one time—what I call “dyad dates”—with each partner in a polyamorous relationship. I share personal stories about my connections with Scott, Jess, and Steph, highlighting how each relationship is unique and requires individual attention. I discuss the different needs and dynamics within each partnership, offering my insights and advice on fostering intimacy, communication, and deeper connections in polyamorous arrangements. I encourage listeners to prioritize individual relationships for stronger, more fulfilling connections.
EP#187: What It's Like in a Long Term Throuple
Jen, Scott and Jess, share candid insights into their lives as a throuple after nine months together. They discuss the evolution of their relationship, navigating distance and family disapproval, and the importance of communication and inclusivity. The trio also reflects on their adventurous intimacy, balancing different dynamics, and upcoming plans to deepen their connection. Their honest conversation highlights the joys and challenges of non-traditional relationships, emphasizing authenticity, mutual support, and the value of embracing love in all its forms.
EP#186: What I Learned by Watching Dying for Sex
Today I'm talking about my emotional reaction to the series "Dying for Sex," featuring Michelle Williams.
EP#185: An Orgasm a Day with Natty Frasca
What if pleasure was the productivity hack you've been missing? Midlife reinvention coach Natty Frasca from The Feminine Rebellion joins us to talk about the power of pleasure—daily orgasms included—and how high-functioning women can unhook from burnout and step into embodied, turned-on living.
EP#184: How to Intro a New Partner to Your Polycule
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, Jen explores the complexities of introducing a new partner into an existing polyamorous relationship. Drawing from personal experiences with primary partner Scott and current partner Jess, the speaker emphasizes the importance of communication, honesty, and emotional support. They discuss the process of bringing in a new partner, and how to address the feelings and concerns of existing partners. The episode provides valuable insights into navigating open relationships, highlighting the need for transparency, emotional reassurance, and fostering connections among all partners involved.
EP#183: Seductive Negotiation: How to Make BDSM Scene Talks Sexy
BDSM scene negotiation isn’t just about setting boundaries—it can be an incredibly sexy, intimate, and arousing part of the experience. In this episode, we’re exploring how to make consent conversations feel exciting instead of clinical. Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned player, learning to communicate your desires and limits with confidence and playfulness can deepen connection and anticipation.
EP#182: The Best Sex of My Life: Updates on Love, Polyamory & Pleasure
In this juicy solo episode, Jen returns with personal updates and powerful reflections on dating, relationships, and the evolution of her sex life. She opens up about her journey through open relationships, meaningful connections with partners like Jess and Scott, and how her sex life has reached new levels of fulfillment. From the role of communication and lubrication to overcoming sexual inhibitions and learning to be fully present during intimacy, Jen invites listeners—especially women—to prioritize their pleasure and explore what amazing sex looks like in midlife. Plus, a sneak peek at what’s coming up on the pod!
EP#181: Jen’s Farewell episode
It's the last episode (at least for now) of The Open Bedroom Podcast!
EP#180: The Evolution of Cuddling & Surrogate Partner Therapy Michelle Renee
Michelle and I explore Cuddle and Surrogate Partner therapy in today's episode!
EP#179: Sexy at Any Size: Boudoir Photography
Discussion on the transformative moment when women see their boudoir photos for the first time.
EP#178: Taking Your Throuple to the Next Level: Getting Married with Triad and True
The throuple discusses their current living situation in Florida and societal perceptions of their relationship.
2024 Top 2 Podcast Episodes: What It's Like to Have Lesbian Sex & Reclaiming Sex: What it feels like
Today I'm bringing you the top 2 podcast episodes of 2024.
EP#176: Discovering Your Sexuality Later in Life with Angelique Simmons
The importance of understanding one's own body and preferences for sexual pleasure.
EP#175: Girlfriend Jess Spills How She Opened Her Marriage With Us
Jess's experience of opening her marriage and dating.
EP174 Top 3 Reasons Couples Stop Having Sex with Whitni Miller.mp4
Whitney shares her role as a sex educator and pleasure coach, highlighting her work and retreats.
EP#173 How to Create an Orgy
Jennifer discusses the importance of attracting open-minded partners for successful orgies.
EP#172: What Happens When Men Allow Pleasure
Jennifer welcomes Jason and introduces the topic of pleasure in men's sex lives.
EP#171: How to Keep Your Relationship 🔥Spicy During the Holidays
Today I'm discussing the pressure of holiday commitments and the importance of saying no to create personal space.
EP#170: OnlyFans As a Business with Serena Rose
Today we're learning from OnlyFans Coach Serena Rose how to create a successful OF biz!
EP#169: Protecting Your Bond With your Primary Partner in ENM
Jennifer introduces the podcast and discusses the importance of staying within relationship boundaries.
EP#168: The Play PT 2: A Lifestyle Party Michael Hollis
This is Part II of The Play featuring Michael Hollis.
EP#167: How to Master Dating Multiple Partners
Jennifer introduces her four partners and discusses her busy life with children and work.
EP#166 America's Most Successful Legal Sex Worker Alice Little from the Chicken Ranch
Alice ( @Thealicelittle ) discusses various experiences available at the Chicken Ranch, including girlfriend and porn star experiences.
EP#165: THE RISK OF STI'S IN SEX
EP#164: Open Relationships Make You Value Your Partner MORE
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EP#163: Swipe Right: Your Partner as your Wingman
Your partner can actually help you find dates online! Here's how.
EP#162: The Play Pt 1: A Sex Party Where Art Meets Erotic Expression
Michael Hollis started The Play, a lifestyle sex party where art meets erotic expression located in Los Angeles to be a place for people in open relationships that was different.
EP#161: How to Craft an Effective Dating Profile
Today I'm teaching you how to write a dating profile that ACTUALLY gets dates. And not just dates, but aligned, perfect dates!
EP#160: Creative Divorce Living Arrangements That Meet Your Family's Needs
Meet Wendy Perkins, an orgasm and neuro pleasure coach, discussing open relationships, conscious uncoupling, and alternative family dynamics.
EP#159: Women, How to Flirt With Women
Jennifer introduces the episode's focus on how women can flirt with women.
EP#158: Multi Orgasmic Living with Cordelia Gaffar
Today I have Cordelia Gaffar, known as the "ultimate joy goddess" on the podcast. Cordelia, a movement facilitator and bestselling author, discusses "multi-orgasmic living," a lifestyle emphasizing self-care, pleasure, and movement for women.
EP#157: How to Squirt with Sierra Bucher
One of the key takeaways from our recent podcast episode is the importance of emotional safety in sexual experiences. Sierra Bucher and I chat about how feeling completely safe and secure can make a huge difference in achieving squirting. It’s not just about the physical act but also the psychological release. How do you ensure emotional safety with your partner? Let’s discuss!
EP#156: The Masked Swingers
EP #155 WTF is a Throuple?
Jennifer emphasizes the importance of communication to prevent conflict in throuple relationships.
EP# 154 OnlyFans with Kate Shelor
Introduction of Kate as a hypnotherapist and her expertise in subconscious influences on relationships.
EP# 153: How to Beat Jealousy
EP# 152 Husbands of Podcasters with Scott and Chad
EP#151: Sex and Psychedelics with Tala and Jackie Christensen
Tala and Jackie Christensen share their journey of trust-building and experimentation, including the use of psychedelics like MDMA and magic mushrooms, and exploring BDSM.
EP#150: Champ Quality Pu$$y Pleasure with Dr. Alison Ash
Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse - TurnON.love/intimacy
EP#149: How to Create a Throuple Dynamic That Lasts
EP#148: Orgasms and Sexual Biohacking with Susan Bratton
EP#147: Monogamish vs. Fully Open Relationships
EP#83: Make ADHD Your B!tch With BDSM with Wendy
Are you curious about BDSM and kink, but feel unsure about how it could fit into your life? In this podcast episode, Wendy, an orgasm and neuro pleasure coach, shares her insights on how BDSM can help people with ADHD release their excess energy and create a sense of safety in their bodies.
EP#146: How to Have a Healthy Divorce with Coach Lindsey Hall
EP#145: How-To: Hot Wax Play
One day I decided to check out the local BDSM group, and attended a Munch (think... BDSM people out in the "Wild" having a Vanilla meetup).
EP#144 Why You Might Hate Oral Sex with Sierra & Jen
EP#143: Why Women Choose Non-Monogamy with Mark Allen
EP# 142: Jen + Steph + Scott 1 Year Triad Anniversary
EP#141: Luna Matatas: How to FU*K Like a Goddess
EP#140: Men’s Spiral into Sexual Detachment Avoidance with Jen and Scott
EP#139: Sex & Menopause With Coach Ali Hendry
In this podcast episode, Ali Hendry and I delve into the subject of sex and menopause.
EP#137: Nice Guy Syndrome with Veronika Amaya
Veronika Amaya, relationship coach specializing in divine masculine empowerment and feminine submission, tells us that no woman wants the "nice guy."
EP#135 How to Practice Healthy Non Monogamy - Insights with Ally Iseman
Today I've got Ally Iseman, a non-monogamous specialist and sexpert, to talk about Healthy monogamy.
EP#134: We Got Dumped Via TXT MSG
How we got dumped in a text message, what I've learned through this process, how I'm feeling, and how to break up with kindness.
EP#133: Primal Play with Girlfriend Steph
Our girlfriend Steph and I believe that sex is "playtime" for adults, so we've made monthly Sexploration nights an important event on our calendars.
EP# 132 How to Create Your Own Spank Bank
EP#131: How to Negotiate MORE in your Sex Life with Brian Jenkins
EP#130 Why Clear Boundaries are Kind in Open Relationships
Scott and I recently had a big relationship rupture that could have been avoided with some conversation and boundaries.
EP# 129 Sex and Intimacy in a Triad with Dr. Rachael Meir
Dr. Rachael Meir discusses her Triad, what it's like to have sex with TWO partners, dating each person 1:1, and what it's like to live in a threesome.
EP#128 Taking Breaks in Open Relationships
This is a very personal episode for me, as Scott and I are currently taking a break with one of our girlfriends and things on this end are tender.
EP#127 Valentine’s Day, Toys, Sexual Preferences, and More!
Today on the pod, Sierra Bucher and I are back to talk about our Valentine's Day plans.
EP#126: Menopause, Men & Happiness PART II with Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Today's episode with Alexandra Stockwell, MD celebrates the menopausal journey, focusing on how to make this life event a gentle shift vs. an uncomfortable, jarring event.
EP#125: Menopause, Men, & Happiness with Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Today's episode with Alexandra Stockwell, MD celebrates the menopausal journey, focusing on how to make this life event a gentle shift vs. an uncomfortable, jarring event.
EP#124: Lesbian Sex: What It’s Like
Bisexuality, bi-curiosity, and bi-situational experiences are increasingly prevalent in the open relationship community.
EP#123: We only Date Unicorns with Throuple Talk Podcast PART 2
THIS IS PART 2 (go back to EP#122 if you haven't already listened to it).
EP#122: We only Date Unicorns with Throuple Talk Podcast
Liv, Josh and Char are a throuple that all live together in partnership with their kids in Texas.
EP#121: My Night in a Dungeon with a Dominatrix
Today I'm telling you my story of my night in the dungeon with a Dominatrix.
EP120: When They Want YOU, But Not Your Partner
This is part 2 of my conversation with Scott, where we explore how we as a couple deal with someone wanting one of us, and not the other.
EP119: Scott Spills Why We Only Date Women
Today I'm joined by my partner Scott, as he spill all about why we only date women.
EP#118: The Affect Birth Control Has on Women's Brain PART 2 with Dr. Sarah E. Hill PhD
Meet Dr. Sarah Hill, a psychologist, professor, and author specializing in women's health and sexual psychology.
EP#117: Reclaiming Sex: What it Feels Like
Jen is spilling her personal experience with "Reclaiming Sex".
EP#116: The Affect Birth Control Has on Women’s Brains: PART 1 with Dr. Sarah E. Hill PhD
Meet Dr. Sarah Hill, a psychologist, professor, and author specializing in women's health and sexual psychology.
EP#115: 2023 Year End Review
As we wrap up another year, I want to take a moment to reflect on our journey together and share some exciting plans for the future.
EP#114: Co-Creating a Sex Practice with Daniela Stevens
Today Sex and Relationship coach Daniela Stevens and I discuss how to co-create a sex practice!
EP#113: Moving Through Shame with Dr. Alison Ash
I'm excited to share some insights from my latest podcast episode with Dr. Alison Ash, an intimacy coach, Stanford lecturer, and the founder of Turn On Love.
EP#112: FMF Threesome: What It's Like
This week I'm talking (in graphic detail) about what it's like to have an FMF threesome.
EP#111: Redefining Separation: A Journey of Conscious Uncoupling
This is a podcast episode that I recorded recently with Rachel Maine on her podcast Owning Your Sexual Self.
EP#109: Adults-Only Resorts: A Candid Chat with Justin Skaggs
Ever wondered what it’s like at an adults-only resort?
EP#108: What is Swinging?
“People who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other people's partners.”
EP#107: Postpartum Intimacy: How to Reconnect with Coach Brianna Carey
I'm thrilled to share with you the latest episode of our podcast, where we dive deep into a topic that's often left unspoken - postpartum intimacy and relationship dynamics. Our guest, Brianna Carey, owner of Intimacy Evolution, shares her personal journey and professional insights on this matter.
EP#106: What is Polyamory?
This week is a solo episode, where I discuss “What is Polyamory?”.
EP#105: TikTok’s The Bratty Cat Shares His Story on Polyamory & Kink
I had the pleasure of hosting Kevin, also known as The Bratty Cat on TikTok. Kevin is not just an amazing human and one of my favorite TikTokers, but also a member of the kink community, non-monogamous, has 4 partners, and 4 cats.
EP#103: How to Have 3-Hour, Gourmet Sex With Your Partner
It's "Story Time With Jen" again and today I'm teaching you how to have delicious, gourmet sex.
EP#102: Empowered Sexuality with Coach Serena Rose
Today I have the incredible Serena Rose, a sex and relationship coach on to talk with us about sexual empowerment
EP#101: How to Make it Safe for Men to Have Vulnerable Conversations with Shana James
Shana James is a coach, author, and podcaster who has been working with men for the past 20 years.
Ep#100: Celebration + Moving to a New Country for Personal Growth and Self-Discovery with Tony & Cristina
I'm thrilled to share with you the 100th episode of our podcast!
EP#99: Breaking the Rules: A Candid Conversation on Dating, Relationships, and Openness with Cashelle Kali
Today we have Cashelle Kali, a guest who is in an open relationship and known for breaking rules in various aspects of her life.
EP#98: Vulva Mapping with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown
This week on the podcast I have SEXperts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown as we discuss the fascinating concept of vulva mapping and the importance of understanding and embracing one's own body for pleasurable experiences.
EP#97: Exploring Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with TikTok Star Danielle from Openly Committed
I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Danielle from Openly Committed, a TikTok star with over 133K followers and over 2 million likes, where she shares her experiences and insights about non-monogamous relationships.
EP#96: Long Term Monogamy & Passion: Is it Possible? With Coach Dora Bradford
I'm thrilled to introduce you to a dear friend and colleague, Dora Bradford. Dora is a women's healthcare provider and an intimacy coach who has been working as a nurse practitioner for almost three decades. We're going to delve into the topic of monogamy and passion in relationships, a subject that is close to my heart.
EP#95: Women: How to be Amazing at Sex
I'm Jennifer Kaylo, your host at the Open Bedroom Podcast. Ladies, I hope these nuggets will inspire you to join us on this journey of self-discovery and sexual empowerment.
NEW Podcast name + Thank You Listeners + Upcoming Brand New Podcast Launch Teaser
The podcast has a name! I also take time to thank each of you for supporting me so well. And... I'm launching another podcast for those of us fully living who we are in the world... and taking submissions for potential guests. DM me (any social channel) if you're interested in being a guest and sharing about how you are showing up authentically in your life.
EP#94: Men: How to be Amazing at Sex with Scott & Jen
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard women say “I never feel turned on” or “I can never orgasm” or “I hate when he just wants to get right into putting his P in my V and that’s it”.
EP#93: Pu$$Y Power with Ellie Berland
Today I have on the show Ellie Berland, a Sacred Life and Business Coach, Sacred Space Holder, and the host of the empowering Fire & Flow podcast. With an unwavering commitment to guiding individuals and businesses towards their true purpose, Ellie has dedicated herself to unlocking the fullest expression of self through the power of body connection.
EP#92: Our Girlfriend Shares Her Experience As a Unicorn
Scott and I have an ethically non-monogamous partnership.
Ep#91: Sex Ed Censorship: Where to Find Amazing How-To Videos with Whitni Miller
Meet the amazing Whitni Miller, queer sex educator, intimacy coach, & TikTok star.
EP#90: Part II: Sex After The Storm: How to Leverage Difficult Conversations to Bring You Even Closer to Your Partner with Coach Brian Jenkins
This is Part II to last Sunday's Part I Podcast
EP#90: Part I: Sex After The Storm: How to Leverage Difficult Conversations to Bring You Even Closer to Your Partner with Coach Brian Jenkins
Coach Brian Jenkins, a Men's S/x and Intimacy Coach, talks about the importance of authentic communication in relationships and shares his personal experience with difficult conversations with his wife.
EP#89 PART 2: Shifting Desires in Intimacy with Andre Lazarus and Susannah Rose
Have you ever felt jealous in a relationship? It's a common feeling, even in open relationships.
EP#89 PART 1: Shifting Desires in Intimacy with Andre Lazarus and Susanna Rose
Have you ever wondered how an open relationship works?
EP#88: BJ Episode with Coach Lindsey Hall is on Patreon + Group Coaching Course + Updates from Jen
This week's podcast episode is an update from me on:
EP#87: Polyamory: Building a Polycule with the Poly Power Couple
Today I have Ryan and Megan on the show, hosts of the @thepolypowercouple podcast.
EP#86 Intentional Intimacy with Charlie McConnell
Creating Intentional Intimacy around our s/x lives is VITAL to getting the kind of erotic, enjoyable, juicy partner play that we want.
Ep#85: Sex Addiction or Sexual Blueprint?: Understanding Sexual Needs in Relationships
Recently I went to my partner Scott and began a conversation where I stated that there were two times in my life that my cup had felt "overflowing". Both involved opening my relationship and having additional partner play.
EP#84: Exploring and Negotiating BD$M: Tips from Decade-Long K!nkster London Crave
If you're new to the world of BD$M, it's important to approach it with caution and care. K!nk educator London Crave shares her insights on how to explore BD$M in a safe and consensual manner.
EP#82: Conscious Kink with Ashley Garcia
Relationship and s/x coach Ashley Garcia reminds us that our bodies were designed for pleasure.
EP#81: Anal 101: Taking it Slow, The Key to Enjoyable Anal Play with Sierra Bucher
Anal play is a topic that often comes with a lot of misconceptions and shame. However, it can be a pleasurable experience when done with the right mindset, communication, and preparation. Sierra Bucher shares her expertise on the subject and offers tips on how to make it a positive experience for both partners.The foundation of any sexual experiment is consent and communication. This is especially true when it comes to anal play. Sierra emphasizes the importance of discussing desires and boundaries with your partner before trying anything new. She suggests starting with external play and gradually working up to penetration with toys or butt plugs. Lubrication is crucial, and Sierra recommends using a thicker lubricant that stays in place, such as silicone or water-based lubricants.It's important to take time and be comfortable with anal play, as it can be a gradual and enjoyable experience. Sierra explains the physical benefits of butt play for vulva owners, describing how it can enhance pleasure during penetration. She also suggests using a clitoral toy to help relax and get in the mood.Overall, the key to making anal play a pleasurable experience is to approach it with an open and willing mindset, communicate with your partner, and take it slow. Sierra and Jen have recorded future episodes, focusing on female and male pleasure, so more to come in the next few weeks! ALSO: Don't be afraid to share your thoughts and questions with us below, as we aim to provide helpful and informative content.
Ep#80: Breaking Societal Norms: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Conscious Uncoupling with Jojo Seamons
In this podcast episode, I interview Jojo Siemens, a Reiki master, energy worker, sound healer, and spiritual women's embodiment coach.
EP#79: Finding Sexual Empowerment & Creativity through Self Pleasure with actress Sayra Player
Sayra Player is the founder of Guided By Glow, the guided audio app designed to help users unlock their sexual power through meditative erotic stories. An artist and actress, Sayra is dedicated to creating playful, inspiring experiences and deeply believes in spiritual transformation through fine art.Sayra believes that sex is emotional, spiritual, and can be key to nurturing a deeper relationship with oneself. Through Guided by Glow, Sayra aims to contribute to a culture that fosters healthy sex lives by combining mindfulness with sensuality to honor the body’s needs without shame.Today we’re going to have a conversation about Sexual Empowerment and Creativity in Sex.
EP#78: Midlife Misery to Midlife Magic with Shannon Hamaker
Can you envision a life where life would be better if you had the space to heal yourself, to show up and be the best human you can be?
EP#77: How to Lovingly Break Up
There is a better way to break up with people, and I'm committed to showing how it's possible with my own life.
EP#75: Aftercare Post-Sex: Creating an Intentional Practice
At the beginning of this podcast I talk about how freaking sad my sex life was for the first two decades of my life. In this clip I share with you what it was like to have sex with Scott for the first time.
EP#74: 64 First Dates with Talia Koren
Talia Koren is the podcast host of Dating Intentionally: https://datingintentionally.podbean.com/ and I’ve been fangirling over her content for months.
EP#73: Dating For Newbies: Your First S*x Date
This podcast is for those that are ready to date.
Ep#72: Get Outta Your Head & Into Their Bed with Jo Leavitt
The confident Swinger Jo Leavitt is back on the show this week with a brand new topic: Get Outta Your Head & Into Their Bed!
Ep#71: C0*k Worship 101
It’s been 6 months since I’ve done a solo episode, so let me get you all caught up. This episode was burning inside of me because I had a man online tell me “All I desire is for a woman to want to pleasure ME. I give, and give, and give to the women in my life, yet no one has EVER asked me what I want. What I desire. What I crave.” And this story made me so f*ing sad. So this episode is all about how I create a night just for my partner. And this is specifically related to me + Scott because I held a C0ck Worshiping night for him last night. Hope this spurs creativity and desire within you. And that your C0*k or Pu$$y Worship night rocks. XO, Jen
Ep#69: How to Keep Long Term Sex HOT with Scott & Jen
In the spirit of 69’ing… which is all about reciprocity… mutual pleasure…. mutual desire… the “I’m so turned on I’ve gotta have you in my mouth RIGHT NOW” energy…
EP#68: Male Performance Issues with Keeley Rankin
Keeley Rankin is a sex and relationship coach that specializes in male performance issues.
Ep#67: His Pleasure, Her Pleasure with Rachel Maine
Rachel Maine is a therapist turned sex and relationship coach, and today is all about PLEASURE.
Ep#66: How I Became an Erotic Author with Ruan Willow
@ruanwillowauthor is an erotic author & narrator who not only creates her own content, but also is the voice for lots of different vanilla & erotic authors too.
Ep#65: Exploring Trauma Through BDSM with Cashelle Kali
My first podcast episode with Cashelle (#53: BDSM 101 From Submissive) was such a hit that we decided to make another one, delving deeper into how exploring trauma through BDSM can actually be a really healing experience.
Ep#64: Seducing the Universe with Danielle Addison
Danielle Addison, owner of Simply Magnetic is a coach that teaches others how to harness the power of magnetism and feminine energies to get what you want. I had Danielle on Episode #31: The Energy of $20K months: what it takes for creating multiple 5 figure months with ease. I’ve been fangirling her for years, and am in her Facebook group (it’s super sexy, y’all!), and am so honored to have her live on the show again! Today we’re talking about Seducing the Universe: How To Get What You Want. Did you know even your coffee can be sexy? Danielle shows us how.
Ep#63: Individuation Relationships with Dr. Joli Hamilton
Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines.
Ep#62: Finding Body Positivity With Burlesque
Classically trained opera singer @lanaviolette was repeatedly told she had no place on the stage or in the arts.
Ep#61: I’ve Decided to Become a Swinger… Now What? With Justin Skaggs
So… you’ve decided to open your relationship… now WTF do you do?
Ep#60: Uncompromising Intimacy with Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Today’s podcast is something really different.
Ep#59: How I Became a Dominatrix with Taylor Posey
Join Taylor and I as we discuss how she became a female dominatrix.
#58: Put Your Dreams to the Test with Sheila Jones
Sheila Jones is the owner of Whicked Results. Hence the name, her focus is getting big results for her clients in their personal and professional life.
#57: STI's 101 with Nurse Practitioner Lauren Haines
More than 50% of all humans have STI's, so why all the shame?
#56: Sexcapades with Tony Hatch & Cristina Lopez
Y'all asked for more of Tony and Cristina so here you go!
#55: Swinging 101 with Jo Leavitt
Today on the podcast I have Jo Leavitt, podcast host of The Confident Swinger, she is a coach leading others into the Lifestyle.
#54: Perspectives on Life from my 97yo Grandmother Therese Grossman
Perspectives on Life from my 97yo Grandmother Therese Grossman: Part I
#53: BDSM 101 From Submissive Cashelle Kali
Today is all about introducing the topic of BDSM, specifically D/s (Dominance and Submission) to my audience.
#52: Why Are We Here? with Claudia Marrero
Claudia Marrero went from agnostic to seeing auras.
#51: Your Inner Child Leads to Healing
Taylar Townzen has been on the podcast before with top episode Sit Down Into It, and today we are discussing how acknowledging our inner child can bring tremendous healing.
#50: Creating Life Alchemy with Marcela McBride
Your dreams were meant to be fulfilled. On this podcast Marcela McBride and I chat about what it means to own who you are, embrace who your heart truly desires to be, and how to birth a program or company that will reach people specifically waiting for Y-O-U!
#49: 50% of the World Is Living in an Open Relationship, And They Don't Even Know it! With Jessica Esfandiary
Today on the podcast I have Jessica Esfandiary, podcast host of Open Late, she also leads, retreats, sound bowl meditations and events, and she has a mentorship program called “Awaken your Inner Healer”.
#48: Open Relationships Part II with Tony Hatch & Cristina Lopez
My Open Relationships 101 is my most listened to podcast so I've brought Tony & Cris back for Part II!
#47: Using Sexual Blueprints in the Bedroom 🔥
Today I'm sharing with you how I show up full both inside and outside of the bedroom.
#46: Creating Boundaries While Online Dating
Creating boundaries while online dating is an important step in having the best experience for you. How can you ensure you get your needs met?
#45: Tinder: Training Human Disposability with Scott Fisher
Today I'm joined with my boyfriend & main squeeze Scott, and we dive into an interesting conversation about how Tinder trains us to think about other humans as disposable.
#44: We Can Do Hard Things with Su Guillory
Intuitive Business Coach and Content Magic Maker Su Guillory talks with us today about living life with the mantra of "I can do hard things".
#42: Open Relationships 101 with Tony Hatch and Cristina Lopez
*UPDATE: We have recorded an "Open Relationships Part II", so head over there once you're done with this episode!
#41: Sit Down Into It with Taylar Jackson
H E L L O podcast rebrand! I felt limited by the name Bricks & Clicks in that I could only talk about retail and sales. Especially when I want to talk about everything BUT that stuff here on the podcast.
Opening Up: A How-To Guide
How to begin to open up your relationship.
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These steps will give you a roadmap for ensuring you're:
- Educated about the various ways to be open
- Get you ready to talk with you partner
- Words to avoid when communicating to your partner
- Creating your open relationship dynamic
- Additional resources
About Jennifer
Jennifer is a Dog Mom. Human Boy Mom. Life partner to Scott. Multi-million dollar revenue generator. Podcast host.
She is a certified sex & relationship coach specializing in helping couples open their relationships, conscious uncoupling, and online dating in open relationships.
Common themes include open relationships, swinging, polyamory, online dating and Tinder, and sex.
The Open Bedroom: what changed
Your words, unchanged: everything here is from your Open Bedroom pages and your podcast feed. Layout and button labels are mine. Tap around on your phone; every page is real.
What you asked for
- Coaching is off. No session prices, no Pricing & Reviews page, no booking link, no Work With Me. Your client reviews were about coaching, so they're off too (easy to put back on About if you want them).
- Podcast-led. The home page leads with the show and the newest episode. Episodes lists all 193 Open Bedroom episodes, through EP#233 (13 Oct 2026), searchable. Each one plays right on the page, and "Listen in your app" opens its Spotify for Creators page, where listeners can play it or pick Spotify, Apple Podcasts or Pocket Casts.
- Fills itself from your feed. When you publish on Spotify for Creators, the site picks it up within a day. Nothing to update by hand.
- Kept: the Opening Up guide opt-in, the email sign-up, and your About. Since you aren't sending a newsletter right now, I took "weekly" off the sign-up so it doesn't promise a schedule.
- Real text, not images, everywhere, so it reads on phones and search engines can see it.
- Completely separate from Growth Spurt: no shared logo, menu, footer or blog.
Things I noticed on the current setup
- theopenbedroom.com forwards to jenniferkayloruscin.com, which shows a Cloudflare error (1014) instead of a site. Checked again today.
- The Opening Up guide page shows the Growth Spurt logo and menu, and its footer says "Jennifer Kaylo Ruscin Enterprises".
- The Kajabi podcast page stops at episode 126. Your feed is at 233.
- Your Open Bedroom feed still carries 39 old retail episodes from 2020 to 2022, from before the show was renamed. They're left off this site. You may want to unpublish them from The Open Bedroom on Spotify for Creators.
Questions for you
- Domain: you own theopenbedroom.com (GoDaddy). Use it for this site? And is jenniferkayloruscin.com retired, or should it forward here?
- Patreon: your current podcast page links a Patreon. Still active? If so I'll add it to the footer.
- Newsletter sign-up: keep it on the site, so you have a list ready for an email blast (say, for an advertising partnership), or take it off until you're sending? If it stays, sign-ups are saved for you to export.
- Anything else to drop or add?
Tell me what to change. Reply to my email or tap below; I'll turn it around quickly.
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